Dating Site Scams: Brains vs Emotions

by Terri
(United States)

I am saddened and surprised at how many women have fallen for scammers on dating sites. I have been approached by about 80 of them myself. I understand there are many people that are "too trusting", but to protect yourself, you have to stop that for a little while as you determine if this is a scammer or not.

He will tell you that you're beautiful and he wants to know you better and ask you to go on Yahoo Messenger. Don't do this. Keep him on that site and ask him for a current address and current phone number.

Ask where he works... you know,, get as much info as possible. If he makes you wait for more than 2 minutes, then forget him. He has to search the Internet for a valid address and phone to make you believe its all "true".

Then you will hear about a dead wife, possibly a dead child or a living one that is in another country. Either before or after this he's going to tell you that he's been looking for a good wife to spend the rest of his life with. Blah, Blah, Blah.

You will also be able to tell by the grammar being used and the spelling. They will say it's because ... (some excuse). Do not believe that either.

DO NOT EVER, EVER GIVE THEM PERSONAL INFORMATION.

Do not send them pictures of yourself or family members. They will say that there is a problem with one thing or another and that he needs money.

DO NOT EVER, EVER SEND ANYONE MONEY.

Voice all of your doubts and see what kind of excuse you get.
I know people get lonely and their emotions take over the brain power. PLEASE do NOT let this happen. When it comes to any kind of dating site being cautious (and not so trusting) will help you weed out the scammers. Be rude if you have to.

They don't care because they only want your money and whatever kind of information they can get out of you. Let your brain take over. Do research. Google and Bing are amazing tools to help you get the info you need.

I hope this helps someone out there that is thinking "this man is too good to be true". He is most likely a scammer.

Good luck to everyone!