Recurring romance scam

by Lisa Stevens
(UK)

I think scam baiting needs to stop as this adds further confusion and distress to victims of an already callous crime. It doesn't help anyone doing this. Although the world is already aware the people in the photo's are victims in terms of identity theft, they are not victims in the same way as those who have experienced the scams and therefore treating them the same is not helpful.

Some, who's identity has been stolen are already years into the experience/knowledge of these scams. You cannot compare a freshly scammed, vulnerable, distressed victims to the men in the photo's. I was lucky compared to some as I came from childcare, working with the highest safeguarding officers I know. I was aware of grooming warning signs. Actions speak louder than words yet I still fell victim as they were adamant I would to some point.

A lot of flags are in the photo's as a scammer told me once that he was travelling for work. Yet I pointed out he was holding a dog lead so how can he be travelling to work. He replied he ran into dog men.... that instantly never made sense to me.

Also although everyone as a victim of scams understand and have compassion for those who've identity has been stolen it is not nice for a victim at their weakest point, fresh out of a horrendous scam to be see they are a dumb arse for not recognising red flags. Its not us that overshared the many many photos of them alone.

Also I would avoid catfishing sites when making a report and go straight to the police with your evidence. I did tell my scammers this and they replied "we are not scared of the police or the Government"..... please please do not listen.

Avoid the catfishing sites as there are many scam baiting on there and report to the police instead. Also please be aware that out of character distress is often show when real victims find out the reality so don't be to hard on them unless you have absolutely no concern or regard for others.